I have been thinking about my daughter's lately and the woman's role in our society. My 13 year old is in love with music, this new generation music. What scares me is how now, more than ever, women are portrayed as sex objects. No new revelation to the world, it's been this way for some time now. But now, there is such a lack of respect for women, especially the lack of men respecting women. I look at the clothes the young girls wear, I listen to the rap lyrics, I watch the videos, and I see little respect for our women and children. Hell, I even sing along to a lot of the lyrics, but I'm grown. I know who I am, what I use to be, I know how I deserve to be treated and I am the example for my daughter's. But, I am not Nicki Manage, Lil Wayne, Drake, Rick Ross or Chris Brown and it is an every day struggle between me and the media, to portray what the norms are in our society to my daughter's.
What's even more alarming is that these young girls grow-up to be young women. Confused, manipulated, taken advantage of, and in many ways abused. Abused because they have adapted to the norms of what society portrays as norms. That young girls are fresh, flirty, bi-sexual, sex crazed animals. Not daughter's, sister's, mother's, educated loved filled individuals.
Now, don't get me wrong, I am a woman, I am a sexual being and I have been accused of being a flirt at some point or another. In my days of adolescence, even young adult hood, I have probably been many different things to different people, but my family raised me with certain morals, standards, and taught me to have self respect. It was the streets that taught me otherwise, so called friends that taught me what no respect looked like. I've said it plenty times before, I am not perfect, no angel by far, but I am not the young girl I use to be, but I am a full grown loving woman, here and transparent, trying to be the best mother I can be for my girls.
I urge you to talk to your daughter's, son's, mentee's about what respect looks like, and what reality is versus what the media portrays as reality. Don't give up or in to what you see, continue to change the world. Do not allow the media to continue to dictate what our youth and young adults look like, especiall our young women.
Peace and blessings,
Shamina
I am not a girl!!
I am not your fuck toy.
I am not your mistress.
I am not your phat thighs, long legged booby.
I am not the love of your life; I am not your WIFE!
I am not your beck and call girl; I am not your high heels with a thong girl.
I am not your wettest pussy girl,
Deepest pussy girl,
Pretty smelling pussy girl,
Your pussy taste good girl.
I am not the; What you need girl?
Take this one thousand dollars and pay some of your bills girl.
I am not your living secrets keep this quiet girl.
I am not your wait on me girl.
Your take out of town trick girl.
I am not the: I love how you smell, suck, and fuck girl, but you can’t be my girl girl, but my girl on the side girl.
I am not the girl that becomes complacent or comfortable.
I am not the girl with no desire.
I am not the girl who depends on another.
I am not the girl who enjoys living in secret.
I am not the girl who will act as if some of this shit don’t exist.
I am not the girl you will manipulate.
I am not the girl you will take advantage of, the girl you think you can change my views and opinions to fit your own girl.
I am not the girl who will get high all her life and let life and time pass her by.
I am not the girl who thinks wealth and riches is what life is all about.
I am definitely not a girl.
